Article 005 Perception Filters

by Storme Reeves | Mar 27, 2019 | What's New

Is what you are viewing really the objective truth? How would you know?

Article 005 Storme Reeves

Over the last while i have been opening my awareness to inconsistencies, things that just don’t add up around the subject of relating to a man as a partner or in a relationship. Continually i would notice how when i talked to a good male friend of mine i would commonly have a different demeanour and air about me when relating to him specifically.  It’s not that i have been unkind and mean to him every time i interact with him as at different times i have felt quite open and accepting of him and how we relate. But i definitely have been gathering a growing awareness of how my patterns implicate and become entangled in key players in my life around me into their patterns and how it can be all so elusive. When you can jump out of it it is such a relief.

 The first practice i was employing was recognising that it is not anyone else’s and for that matter my good friends fault everytime i feel upset or everytime he does something which i have a judgement about which i then use to cement a suspicion that it really is his fault. The point is that it is not even about who did what or what role they played and therefore who is right and who is wrong.  I knew whilst doing this practice that there was something more for me to see but it was still remaining very illusive.

   The next step from this process was when i drew up on some butchers paper what i perceived to be my grand delusions on the subject matter of thinking that i need to have a father figure type with all that that entails for me in my life to feel happy, satisfied and completed in some way.

  So everytime my friend did something that did not fit into my storyline of what this figure should be like it would make me frustrated and i would need to have space from him to work out what was going on. This part of me which constantly would react in this way with variations would commonly experience strong intense feelings  whenever this pattern was triggered. After writing up my diagrams on the butchers paper i was able to have more clarity about how i would be when this was all in action. So my next daily practice was to be very mindful of when i saw it arising and be present and say to myself í don’t need to be ‘that person’ and the urges to react in a strong way would cessate. I did this for a few weeks and now it is no longer a big effort like it was at the start and i have created a new pathway and habit of taking internal space  before i respond to my environment or potential trigger..

  The next layer appeared just the other day where i could feel my energy levels dropping and i could detect myself falling into a familiar pattern linked in to the above components but i wasn’t really sure what it was about. As my friend does not in anyway depict what my picture of the ídeal father figure/partner is, i was experiencing once again some similar feelings of that nature, that it was somehow his fault that i felt this way-like he was not satisfying something in me that was obviously in distress.

 I still had the awareness and knowing of course that this was nothing really to do with him at all. The following morning i awoke from a dream where i was feeling comforted and relieved having a hug with an ex partner of mine. The feelings i had when waking were not particularly happy or peaceful but quite painful with a yearning and pining type of feeling attached. So i went into meditation for well over an hour to have a look around at what this was all about.

  In the meditation i could see myself like in the dream in that feeling which was like a compulsive feeling of absolutely needing to be embraced in the hug and having everything all taken care of. I then worked with this scenario to see how i would feel given different choice points from that setting.  Firstly i told myself to refrain from going into the embrace. The reactions from this were strong feelings of fear and it felt like i wouldn’t survive if i didn’t act on that compulsion. I then felt anger at myself that i had stopped the usual process from occurring therefore not getting to experience that temporary satiation from the compulsion.

    It may help to understand that when i am talking about the moving into the embrace scenario like the dream it is not a happy ending type of story-it depicts more a familiar part of myself that has experienced these sets of feelings, memories, associations and actions that keep me in a perpetual state of distress because although i can follow the compulsion im never satiated because I’m inside a perpetual trauma pattern, trying to help myself to get out of the trauma pattern. We cannot fix or change unhealthy habits, thoughts and feelings inside of the state that creates and feeds them. When working to change out of a pattern i find it very useful to visualize the typical scenarios with the feelings that go with it and then change what you would normally do and see what responses you get. This is like faking it until you make is kind of idea only we are trialing different actions to better understand our system and how it works to make more informed choices. Once we can understand our psychology within the pattern we can literally like in the movie the matrix, insert the girl in the red dress to change the program.

  The falling into my ex’s arms is a type of supplication where i move into feeling cared for and i can stay there and be looked after because i feel i cannot actually survive without this-it is a co dependent type of interaction. The other end of this if it were a duality- if it was on the upside of this expression it would be exhibited as a type of dominance and empowerment, i would have picked up the pieces and had the foresight to see i cannot exist in the codependent state and i now work to remedy it by gaining power, working hard to be successful in whatever I’m working on . I would also work to feel like i can exist independently.

    These expressions as i see them are two extremes due to partly being stuck in a pattern from conditioning and epigenetic inherited patterning and partly due to my societal conditioning of feeling like we need to operate through competition. I will only survive if i compete.

   The whole trauma pattern is 100% unable to include cooperation or collaboration with another person nor can i even put those ideas together and identify how to do this from within the pattern. So to elaborate even though the best part of me may have a desire to work cooperatively with my friend on a given project, if i have any of this trauma pattern operating i will find it impossible to work outside of the limitations of competition with him. Try as i might it is literally invisible to me because my perception of him from within the pattern is completely colored. Being inside this pattern works like a giant filter that makes every person i interact with specifically men to be tainted by the views and beliefs that are held within the pattern. Just think about this and what i am saying so we can digest it.

      Everything you view looks like, sounds like, smells like, feels like it does due to the multi layers of who you are, your belief systems, conditioning, generational inheritance, culture and so on. So our view of something or someone is rarely neutral and it is rarely also the view of another person, it is unique to you. Someone may have a similar experience and we think they have the same view as us but this is actually us experiencing entanglement. This is where you can  become entangled in another person’s views, beliefs and so on which may be similar to yours so that you then believe they are the same because this serves a purpose for our ego to reinforce that our position is right and if we have more people to support this then we have a false sense of security, stability and ground. This is the ever running complexity of our mind and how we can trick ourselves into trying to stay in situations that appear comfortable, with people that we feel comfortable with, avoiding the truth of matters and anything that may bring about change.

      So after trying to work through all of his on my own in meditation i decided to ask my friend to stay and be present and assist where needed whilst i went back into the meditation. He had already detected part of the source of the distress inside of me was linked to this competition.

It was an amazing experience where i saw myself trying to come from the scene in the dream through this giant whirlpool of energy, memories, attachments, people, places and so on all to do with this pattern. My whole being was very attached to this type of suffering and all of the memories to do with it, because it was so familiar i was reluctant to give it up, it felt like something comforting. Which of course i had just seen that it indeed is a cycle of trauma patterning and  it was not good to keep it. The session went for almost 2 hours where i went from spontaneously crying, seeing different faces from my past, to being very still and calm. On the other side of the whirlpool were figures of greatly developed beings like Mother Mary, Jesus, Buddha and some types of light beings, including my friends dad called Abdullah.

It was if they were helping to draw me through the attachments to this suffering closer and closer to them.  At the end of the whirlpool experience i saw the face of my mum and just like the other people who had presented before in this process i worked to release this filter from her that i was also holding to keep me in the pattern.

     For those who may think this quite a far fetched idea to have sensed these beings as a part of my processing. I always practice to to try and remain unattached to ideas, thoughts, feelings and experiences.  Subscribe to the idea that the more you can release limiting thoughts and beliefs the more you can open to all kinds of input, support and guidance.The resistance one might feel towards this kind of idea will be based in the ego and it will be judgements and prejudice. When working on myself and with clients i understand that each and everyone of us has our own contexts, belief systems, culture and conditioning which are the perfect settings from which to begin working from to evolve and grow, however it does not make one person’s context wrong or right over another.. The figures i sensed in my processing will be representing in my context what i believe to be true about their energies such as the overall energies of love, transformation and compassion which they all represent.

     At the end of the experience with the whirlpool i eventually made it to the other side and found all of these beings plus all of the people and faces i had seen in my processing and we were sitting in a circle. I could clearly see that all of the beliefs, ideas, thoughts, feelings and conditioning i have experienced in my life had created one giant filter in my perception in regards to specifically men but not limited to men. The filter was created of all of the points i have been writing about above. So using my friend as an example. When i would interact with him at anytime he would be viewed in a particular light that would reinforce my central delusion i wrote on the  butchers paper-which is ‘i need to have this ideal/father figure person’ for me to feel secure, safe and capable. So my friend would be viewed as all the things that the ideal figure is not, which would reinforce my suffering and then loop me back into the cycle of that particular suffering inside of the major delusion. This is how i know it is a delusion that needs to be seen and released as it keeps me in a cycle of suffering.

     The main approach and energy that the circle represented was like that of the sun. An energy of being able to absorb, observe and let go of reactivity. This is a place where cooperation can occur and competition cannot exist.

    After i finished the meditation i began my normal morning jobs and i went out to take my dog for a walk. As i was 20 metres up the street i noticed someone had smashed a beer bottle on the road. For your understanding i’ll share that this is a almost a pet hate of mine that people smash bottles in the bush and on the road and do not pick it up. My dog ended up being close to blood poisoning from an infection resulting from a severe cut in his toe from walking on a piece of broken glass. He had to have the toe removed which has affected his gait significantly affecting his quality of life. I often find myself having a gripe about this and i wish i could explain the impact this kind of negligence can have. However i am fully aware this is a pathway into blaming my environment for my own misfortunes which i am actively working to change.

   Anyway my new practice when i find litter and broken glass on my walks is to gratefully thank the person who has left it there as they have given me an opportunity to act responsibly and pick it up. This is also a practice in generating gratefulness. It is a challenging practice but ill get better at it. I was collecting the shards of glass from off the verge and the road when some of the neighbours were out in the garden. I was thinking to myself how i would manage the glass and that i may need to walk back home to put it in the bin, when i looked up to see my neighbour leaning  over the fence with his hands open for me to give him the glass to dispose of. This is not a coincidence but a direct expression of the opening of possibilities inside of myself to work cooperatively and to accept cooperation from my environment. This affirmed the work i had been doing in meditation and it was really a wonderful miracle and divine occurrence.

I hope this has helped in someway to assist with your own deeper insight into your own storylines.

Bye for now.

Love Storme

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Article 004: You Don’t Need to be ‘ Broken’ to be Loved

by Storme Reeves | Feb 8, 2019 | What's New

This revelation and knowing that ‘you don’t need to be broken to be loved’ came to me at 6am on a Sunday morning while i was in deep meditation.

The beginning of the awareness of this particular type of struggle inside myself came about as it always does in the reflection of my experiences with my environment only 8-10 weeks ago. It is my belief and knowing that we are like projectors and our whole life, the experiences we have, our belief systems and patterns are all projected out from within us to create life as we know it. Even though this has been proven to me many times over for myself and with my clients it still took me awhile to catch on!

I will describe the circumstances and experiences i was having to provide a working demonstration of how we can learn from our classroom of life continually. If we truly want to wake up from our unconscious suffering we can face each conflict, grievance and discomfort to learn and understand why that is our experience. It is in this understanding we can move closer to compassion, care and kindness for ourselves and then in turn for our environment. This is how we can help change the world to a brighter evolved consciousness through each and every one of us’s journey of waking up. In this learning for me there were four notable recurring and ongoing experiences which were my main indicators of the conflict inside of myself.

Experience number 1. 
8-10 weeks ago i had finally saved enough money to purchase a new laptop computer. The one i had had been broken on the lid, the screen had black pixelated spots on it, the battery only lasted 1 minute, it is soooo slow and the battery charger did not connect properly into the socket, hence the untidy bits of tape and such to hold it in! I searched for hours to find a laptop i considered to be suitable and purchased it online. I received my laptop a week later only to discover it was doing weird things, like pasting text twice when using the copy and paste or weird red dots appearing on the screen and so on. Well….so began the saga. I won’t bore you with the copious amounts of emails, phone calls and so on i am still engaged in 8 weeks later in an attempt to get my money back or a replacement. As i write this article i do not have the laptop nor my money! but now i do understand as of 6am this morning why this has been my experience and i wholeheartedly believe i will find an immediate change of circumstances for me in regards to this because of my new enlightened understanding, as now i will be projecting this into my environment. 

Experience number 2.
My beautiful daughter for quite awhile now has been displaying a notable behaviour which has increased in regularity over the last few months. This behaviour has been very triggering for me which is a direct indication it is related to something inside myself that needs addressing. The types of behaviors she would do is seek attention from me via either pretending to or really hurting herself, falling over or something of the like. Bless her 7 year old self for running this pattern for me to see it in myself. Jorja would do obviously amusing yet distressing things like on our daily walk with the dog, she would ride her bike ahead of me and go around the corner so i couldn’t see her, lie her bike on the ground and then lie down next it, waiting for me to come around the corner and think she had fallen off the bike. I do see the humor in this but when she used to do it i also was frustrated as to why she thought she needed to do that to receive attention, as she has no short supply of it. Now i can see she is innocently running an inherited pattern just like a computer program would run if it is installed on a computer. Jorja underneath the many expressions of this pattern was essentially repeating the same message ‘i need to be broken to be loved’.

Experience number 3.
I had recently been presented with an opportunity to trial the apple iTunes music subscription. I own a classic iPod which i got approx. 5 years ago and my daughter owns a Nano ipod. We were happy to listen to some new music and went to put it onto our ipods so we could listen to it in the lounge room only to find that it wouldn’t work. I spent a great deal of time troubleshooting, calling apple, emailing apple and so on only to find out you have to have a fairly new ipod or apple device to actually use the apple subscription in the first place. Long story short this experience was another example of me hitting my head against the wall in frustration and feelings of not being valued, discriminated against, excluded and taken advantage of. I began with apple a complaint process about being misled when subscribing to their offer and so on. This experience was another example of where underneath it all i felt unjustly excluded from a service and product, that i nor the ‘little people’ do not matter and that the whole world has gone crazy with competition and making a profit.

Experience number 4.
There was an unknown charge from a paypal merchant on my bank statement which i contacted paypal about. All i kept getting was automated emails and so on from them. This experience was another frustration of how me and ‘the little people’ simply do not matter to ‘them’ and my request and experience is simply just not important and so on.
I can add in other examples over the last 8 weeks of not being paid for workshops i have conducted despite communicating with the venue, having other payments from work commitments delayed for unknown reasons, events i was conducting being cancelled and so on. It’s just to uncanny to be a whole lot of coincidences! 

Ok, so now you have a little window into the life of Storme over the last 2 months, now for me to provide what i have discovered to be the main pattern and learning from it all. I might add that we humans can run these types of patterns, if we are not looking our whole lives.

During my meditation this morning i began by relaxing and finding a stillness inside of myself. I then observed from this place the exact feelings i have been experiencing in relation to these mentioned events. Preceding this meditation the day before i was very much inhabiting a space of deep sadness and hopelessness. These feelings were also dominant during the meditation. Observing these feelings i was reminded of a sound healing meditation i conducted the day before, where i was sitting playing the crystal bowls in the hall and the sun had begun to set and suddenly began to shine directly through the window onto me as i was doing the meditation. My response to it was that i had somehow become lost and the sun reminded me of my connection to all things specifically ideas of light, love and connection.

What was clear was the sadness and hopelessness was a place i was inhabiting where i was in the victim end of a duality where i was completely insignificant to the world, worthless, unloved and abandoned. This is what was behind the frustration and need to fight for my rights. As i observed these feelings i felt like i was sinking further and further down into nothingness and becoming obsolete. I asked for guidance from one of my guides who i will refer to as ‘Thay’ (Vietnamese for Master Teacher). Thay assisted me as we begun an exercise together of allowing the process of sinking down like in water to the very bottom of the lake or ocean. As i sat there with Thay all i wanted to do was to quickly swim to the top, full of fear. I looked even deeper. Why did i have this fear and desperate need to swim to the top?, perhaps in another context this visualisation could provide a person with much needed space, quiet and stillness. The fear and desperation were because if i was not seen and perhaps sitting on the shore where i was visible then i would surely die, i would not receive love or nurture, i would not be connected to family, friends or the community and i would cease to exist.

Thay assisted me to see and release the egoic component of ‘being seen’ with the egoic need to get attention in the effort to maintain a perceived position or status of value and worth. This showed me that there was more to be found underneath this as the ego has grown and does grow from our belief systems and ‘programming’ to try and maintain our beliefs and conditioning as it believes this will ensure our survival. Another point to note is that the ego will always be involved in this ‘maintenance’ coming directly from a foundational pattern or belief which is founded in lack or scarcity. So this was another clue for me on my journey to understanding.

After allowing this to release i was given the exercise to see myself synchronistically sitting at the bottom of the lake and also sitting on the shore. This was an exercise in practicing non duality, being able to see myself as not separate to the other but in fact as a composition of the whole. This visualisation enabled me to allow into the story compassion and care for the self that was feeling the pain.

I was then shown the previously very subconscious feeling and belief in the form of younger versions of myself, 7 years old and 8 years old being the strongest that ‘I need to be broken to be loved.’ (how pertinent is it to note my daughter who is 7 and a half years old to be displaying this pattern!)

Wow, what a revelation. Now i think it is important to note that by simply conceptualising these ideas is not enough to really know it in yourself. Because i was right in the middle of these experiences and i began to search and wake up to the understanding of why, it is the whole process of the awakening into the suffering and to the understanding that provides us with the ‘knowing’ and therefore the learning. My point being folks try not to take the hurts and discomforts of your life as something to avoid, suppress or limit your awareness of. They are your learning platforms and if i hear you say well…..how do we find the understanding to follow this process? I recommend setting an intention with yourself that you want to understand, listen to your intuition, make choices to not continue the dramas but to walk mindfully and keep asking for understanding.

I would like to explain the belief i discovered ‘I need to be broken to be loved’ as to how that actually played out for me unknowingly in the past to provide further context and understanding for you. I believe without a doubt this area of patterning is inherited from both my mum and dads side of the family. This belief is in no way unique to me and my family and of course as we are not separate to one another there are many of us who run this pattern. 

The ways in which this pattern would be displayed would be my constant participation as a child in falling ill with various illnesses like glandular fever, the flu and asthma. The stimulus in the subconscious is around a paradigm of lack and scarcity. “I will be loved and cared for if i am sick”. “I will be loved and cared for if i break my arm” etc.

Relating this back to my issues with online purchases, apple music and my daughters behaviors. I was running a program of lack and scarcity in these experiences. I only have this amount of money and now i have no product and no money, what about me?. In my fight with them i am demanding to receive attention, love, care and value but from a place of lack. This is why it does not work. The fact is these giant paradigms of the ‘profit motive’ and ‘victim/bully’ movie scripts are running constantly and as we become more enlightened and evolved the more of us will begin to not become involved in them and not to feed them. This is when it will change. So i could be consciously and mindfully involved in any of these paradigms but as of now i have released my attachment into the drama. Prior to today i was feeding and keeping that paradigm alive by my unconscious suffering and active asleep role in the duality.

Another example of how i supported the belief of needing to be broken to be loved is living the duality of being someone who was seen as ‘talented’ in the area of music and singing but then also seen as ‘unfortunate’ as i couldn’t seem to ever be able to make my life and with music come to fruition. So within that example i would be playing out the belief to receive attention in that duality.

So now what do i do? Well understanding is everything. Now i understand this it is my job to remain mindful of this new found knowing everyday and to feed a new pattern forward. The new pattern is ‘Because I am here I am loved’ This is now in the realm of trusting in the divine intelligence of spirit or god and allowing myself to receive through a new channel of love and trust and wholeness.

If we had a good look around at ourselves and those around us we also notice how competitive these types of patterns can be. Reflecting back over the year i can see many experiences where i have unwittingly entered into this competition where i can now observe feelings inside myself of having to compete with other people as to who is the most ‘broken’ and therefore who should win and who should stand down and so on. Its as if we are all screaming I’m the victim, no i’m the victim, I’m the most important, no I’m the most important!! These types of conflicts can become very distressing and cruel, it is especially difficult when we cant see past our own suffering. If you can think of a conflict you have had with someone try and take a look as deep as you can to observe as to what is really going on for the other person underneath the drama, then find those same themes in yourself and what role you have played. At the end of the day being whole is embracing the fact that you and me are no different from one another on the inside. We all want to be loved, we all want to love.

Thank You for reading and please feel welcome to contact me anytime if you have any queries or questions, after all understanding is everything right? 🙂

With love,
Storme

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Article:003 The addictive Nature of our Behaviors

by Storme Reeves | Jan 1, 2018 | What's New

Published 01.01.18
How we maintain and nurture our cycles of suffering.
Over the last couple of years along with the help of a colleague. I have been making observations of myself and the ongoing cyclical patterns in my state of being which I appear to move through. These patterns on the surface display as myself being open and confident to connect to my environment and then wanting to seperate away and have space by myself from interactions with my environment.

Specifically i have narrowed down the focus to two strong aspects of myself which falter and go into a grey area when it comes to interrelating with a man more specifically one that there has been or is an intimate relationship with. It is more perhaps that the first character which i will call the ‘hiding storme’ is a character in a story of my life which has been created and developed with its own brain chemistry, psychological profile, beliefs and behaviors which is in conflict with the other character which is more aligned to my highest potential of a true expression of God or spirit in the Self which we can call ‘connecting storme’.

Hiding storme exists to uphold a story of storme in which she has suffered trauma and particular life experiences where she now needs to relate to a man or imagines a relationship with a man of whom can protect her and who can provide a place she can hide and inhabit a state of dependency. This character feels she can’t do it on her own, she has lots of self doubt, and depends on being able to hide away when it looks unsafe and uncertain and then come out again when it is perceivably better.

On the surface this may not look like such a bad thing but the point is that it exists within a cycle from which there can be no growth, development or evolution of the self if any of these parts are allowed to continue on perpetuating the cycle of suffering. The salvation is to become mindful and recognise them in action so they can be tended to consciously and
mindfully.

The connecting storme is very present and is learning and practicing the art of being in service to others and putting herself….and her story of suffering second. It is a practice of mindful awareness as to who is interacting now? What ‘I’ am I speaking from now at this moment what ‘I’ am i writing this from at this moment. Who is the observer? Who is the performer of the speech or the action?

If we practice extending our awareness of ourself and our environment we can become more knowledgeable about exactly why these parts of us or aspects exist, what they look like and what their behaviours are at any given time.
The hiding Storme can enter into communication with her environment seeking comfort and or attention. The underlying issue is fear and insecurity. This character is acting from the context of her story which includes childhood sexual abuse and various other themes and experiences. To grasp what i am saying we can simplify it to explain it in a clearer example. The difference is will i be the story of my life or will i be Storme who has had lots of varying experiences in her life?? These are two very different concepts.

If a person is completely in their ‘story’ there will be a lot of energy put into supporting why they are how they are now. This happened to me so this is why this is now. Where is the room for change, healing and growth in this scenario?
In actual reality if we look at our life experiences that have been perceivably ‘negative’ and look at them as data to learn from and develop compassion for others who have experienced this suffering and so on then we can move out of the story and be in the present moment. Well….not so easy a task especially if consider we may have a smorgasbord of characters or points of who the ‘I’ is that can arise at any time to fulfill their current need or role play of repeated cycles of suffering.

My answer to this is to cooperate and collaborate with your environment and always journey inside yourself to find understanding of what is making you tick. Practicing mindfulness has and is such a wonderful tool that i use daily and all throughout the day.

Now let us return to the focus of the article which is to explain my observations of the addictive nature of some of these developed behaviors.I was very grateful to be able to speak openly with my colleague and to also be in a state where i was being very mindful and aware of what my behaviors were the other day. We had been investigating these cycles and the characters and i observed myself in the early part of the day moving into a different state of ‘I am.’ When i say this i mean that there was a character change, or different persona or aspect of myself that came into centre view and was the dominant
leading part of Storme.

This character is a step on from the hiding storme. We will call her ‘desperate storme.’ Hiding Storme had been active previously and there was an experience where she was unable to connect to who she wanted to, to keep the story running, find comfort and be the centre of attention for that particular person. The story was being upheld and fed lots of energy as hiding storme felt devastated, lost, abandoned and very uncertain.

Enter stage left comes ‘desperate storme!! As i watched this change i was very intrigued. You must understand that these can be subtle changes and whilst this was happening i was undergoing my usual daily activities just with a very watchful
eye-excuse the pun !! Desperate Stormes physical body was experiencing a large amount of sexual energy throughout her body. She had distant thoughts of connecting to a very close friend of hers of whom she has been in an intimate relationship with and there was a direct and very intent energy to want to create an opportunity to see him so they could have sexual
relations together. The friend came over and this energy within storme in the desperate storme character continued as they chatted and discussed what might be happening in these processes. During this communication there was a very big AHA moment where i felt as if i suddenly came out of this ‘desperate storme;s’ character to view her very clearly and to see that what….. I….storme wanted, was not what this other part of me the ‘desperate storme’ wanted, which was to receive direct attention, be at the centre and find comfort through sex. This character also inhabits a very strong sense of ‘I WANT’ if i want it then i must have it. The addictive nature displaying itself as a desperate need and intent to find a ‘fix’ or hit’.

The feeling i had which was so strong in this moment as i saw this brought me to tears. I could see so clearly that this desperate storme character had been put together and developed as stage two of the strategy throughout my life to uphold my story but to also if all else failed find and get my ‘Fix’ of attention, comfort and importance. I recognised the addictive nature of this desperate character because it had so much energy attached it, it was manipulative, directly focused on getting what it wanted so much so that it was blinded to its environment, fixated and desperate. The second marker to this addictive nature is my instant remorse and remembering back over my life as to the impact and distress this part of myself had contributed to and caused to those around me and to myself. Although i know i did not intentionally take actions to hurt another person in my life it doesn’t mean i haven’t done exactly that. The reason i couldn’t see it at the time is because i was so engrossed in me, my characters, my suffering and my story, with the whole focus being on self serving myself. If we are honest with ourselves we could at any given moment check in and ask ourselves ‘am i doing or saying this….to fulfill my needs, wants and desires? Is it multi layered with multiple motivators? Or is this moment where we are happy to be second to provide for another unconditionally? How does the action i have taken support my perceived story of my life? How does the words i have been speaking and the content of what have been saying support the story of my life?

I referenced back in my memory to my late teenage years after going through an intense stage of anxiety, depression, alcohol and drug abuse, to a time where i had an AHA moment out of the haze of intoxicants to see the path of debri i had left behind me. This debri was the impact of distress and hurt it had caused to my family, friends and anyone i had interacted with whilst dwelling in my own pool of suffering and self centred delusions.. This may sound harsh but it is true and of course it is not to say i had many good experiences as well, but this is the topic of focus for this article…:)

Now seeing the addictive nature of this aspect of myself in such a clear way the following days i have been very mindful and observant of these characters wanting to take centre stage. Sometimes they have but i have managed to bring back into centre
‘connecting storme’. I suspect i will need to keep this practice going until they simply peter out and run out of puff. Perhaps it will take me 30 days to change this habit, which is what it is also.

Until next time….please keep growing, keep asking questions and keep diving deeper. The secret to living a happy, peaceful and joyous life is being courageous to identify and confront what lies underneath with an open heart to make a change and do
your part to make a brighter future for our children, ourselves and the entire planet.

Much love
Storme

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Article:002 Self Development for World Peace

by Storme Reeves | Dec 3, 2017 | What's New

“ How do we know when and what to look for to evolve ourselves, find deeper understanding, resolution and inner harmony?”
During my meditation i identified a part of myself that from a young age would try to find in another person a sense of security and stability. If i felt anxious or uncertain about anything i would look to my environment to find the sense of groundedness in another person to connect into that.

If the person that was with me did not have that energy available my response would be to draw away and separate myself from my environment. I noticed this pattern in play the other day, only now i am an adult but i still had this pattern running.

I now have a daughter and in my attempt to protect myself and find a sense of security i withdrew from my environment but with my daughter to create an Us and Them scenario. How many times do we see this occurring in our everyday interactions and how interesting is it to be able to penetrate deeply into ourselves to identify these patterns, how they operate and what is the root cause and development of this pattern.

We could investigate in a holistic approach what could be a contributor to the development of this pattern in ourselves looking deeply into psychological and behavioral development predominantly from 0-10 years old to find where we may have learned negative behaviors or misunderstanding that have grown to be habitual patterns within our living experience. We could investigate past life experiences if this is your cup of tea or examine any traumas or abuse in this life and also take into account the influence and very real presence of our inherited beliefs, disease, illness and patterning from our family generations. The wonderful thing is going on this path of discovery leads to a greater sense of peace, understanding, compassion, self love and a greater capacity to help ourselves and those we are in contact with. This would mainly be our
family, friends and community and this is very important. These understandings are a piece in the jigsaw of creating world peace and harmony. I strongly urge and hope to inspire you to begin to look deeply into everyday occurrences which trigger you and bring up feelings of uncomfortableness in you.

This is your flag point and indicator of which you need to stop and pay attention to the learning and lesson hidden within.

As i looked deeply into my experience i wanted to know more and like a child i kept asking myself…..but why?……but why? And to my great delight i received some answers. Why did i firstly look to another for security? Well, looking back into my childhood i recognised that after my dad left at 2years i now had one less parent to look to for stability and security. Although i
was well cared for with a roof over my head and food on the table the dynamics between myself and my mum were not consistent in my experience. My mum suffered from some depression from time to time and the fluctuation of what this entails contributed to a feeling of insecurity in me. My mum would do her best to connect with me but at times she would
be unable to provide a connection of stability and security for me.

Looking further back into my family tree the energy of dependence and patterning of a woman depending on a man and also the energy of insecurity was able to be seen in my parents and further back down the lines. Scientists have now proven that beliefs and patterns and trauma can be passed on and inherited from your predecessors.

So i can see with everyone’s best intentions and capabilities without investigating this information and working with it one would feel frustrated like you were fighting an unknown force.

I have recalled and looked further into three past life experiences where i have lived a life of trauma and pain and i have worked to resolve these grievances of these parts of myself to integrate all of these aspects harmoniously.(these stories are another tale to tell another day!)

So back to the experience. I looked closer and saw myself standing there feeling rejected and abandoned by the other person. The self i saw was a young child aspect of myself who was holding dearly onto her suffering, her story and needs. Being an only child until the age of 12years i had little context as to how you would have your needs met and suffering addressed without almost demanding they be heard and dealt with now. If i had grown
up with siblings i would have had the opportunity to see how possibly everyone could be heard and seen by their mum and dad without it being a self importance struggle.
I asked for some guidance as to how do i heal the part that is insecure. Firstly it was clear that i needed to understand and know that stability and security is already a part of myself and it is there for me to realise this.

Secondly i was presented with a wonderful image during the meditation which showed a great enlightened teacher Thich Nhat Hahn in front of a class. All the people in the class were all parts of myself all hanging on to their hurts and struggles and desperately wanting to be the one he chose to talk to first. This vision continued until it included friends and family in the class as well. As each person got to connect to him and talk about their hurts i became lighter in the struggle i was feeling. It then became clear that these struggles, insecurities and hurts are not only my own and in trying to remain self important with them (in the hope that i will be helped and relieved) was a learned behavior from my experience as an only child and it was not the way to resolve it. I discovered that as each person was helped and enlightened so was a part of myself showing me that we are not separate and that my pain is your pain, your hurt is my hurt.

In seeing this great epiphany i knew then that really the saying ‘treat others as you would like to be treated’ is very very important and alludes to the greater truth that we are all one connected living organism and in showing compassion, care and support for another by removing our self importance from our own struggles we help the other person and in doing so help ourselves. There is no separation.

I am continually discovering these understandings within myself and when working with my clients. IF you feel inspired to. Look deeply today and if you need some assistance lets make a time to chat and begin evolving:)

Peace and Blessings Storme
Perth Sound Therapy & Life Coaching
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Article:001 Regression and the Patterns of Suffering

by Storme Reeves | Oct 17, 2017 | What's New

Over this last period in conjunction with my studies surrounding grief and loss i have been identifying many aspects, levels and layers of the blueprint i have received from my mother and the generations before her.

Through my daily interactions with my environment i receive the information and stimulus to reflect back on my own reactions and responses to discover exactly ‘what is my contribution to this interaction and what patterns, beliefs, limitations am i using as my context?’

Blueprints. During my self work and discovery i have come to understand what it means for me the concept of a blueprint in respect to things that are passed onto you from your parents and the generations before them.

In my reading and experience i have seen first hand the concept of epigenetics as discussed by Bruce Lipton in his book the Biology of Belief.

A week or two ago i found myself experiencing feelings of loss and sadness. There have been some stressors in general in my life at present but this appeared to have come on by itself. I was able to identify it by being mindful of my mood and feelings and also by my responses to my environment.

It is my experience that if i am involved in a pattern which has its roots based back in the years of conditioning approx. 0-7 years my environment will display and play out like a movie to reflect exactly those old beliefs and patterns as if to provide proof that these are true and correct, and in my context without an expanded awareness, intelligence , and an understanding of the nature of things if that was all i knew then it would be to me true and correct.

The feelings i had been experiencing were around loss, sadness, being bullied, self pity, despondency, dejection, self doubt of my capabilities and a sense of a lack of data to be able to manage and proceed forward. This last piece of information “ a sense of a lack of data to be able to manage and proceed forward”. was a direct clue that the part of me i needed to explore and to address was indeed a young part or a young child aspect of myself.

I am 41 years old and i do indeed have the capabilities to manage and move forward through conflict so technically the data for these skills exists within myself but not for the child aspect which is the one that has been the creator and pioneer of these old beliefs and patterns. If we look into the realm of quantum physics we discover that there is in fact no linear constructs such as time and everything is happening all at once. I have discovered with this in mind that you may have some parts of yourself for example lets say the child aspects that are in a state of disrepair in one area of development and at the same time you have some other parts the older or adult parts that have developed skills in this area of development. You will be able to move forward in a positive direction to a point at which stage depending on the mass of development or suffering from the parts that are in disrepair become a critical mass and they can reach a tipping point and either lead to a place of repair and healing or move in the direction of more suffering. This is all dependent on our day to day choices around mindfulness, self care, development and evolution.

When you have many aspects of yourself at different stages of repair or disrepair you can identify a memory, an age and the origin of the belief system or pattern that is behind the suffering and using tools such as regression, hypnosis other counselling techniques and sound therapy you can repair and bring new information and understanding to these aspects. As you do this this allows those parts to connect and re-join to the healthy and balanced aspects of yourself. As you continue on this journey the more you use this practice the greater the energetic mass of health, wellbeing and balance is assimilated. The result is a stronger self, a natural resilience, increased compassion and empathy for yourself and your environment, the focus is moving more and more away from your own suffering because you are tending to it and creating harmony and in turn you are more able to assist and be present for those around you.

Please note that it is imperative in my experience of this type of work that as much as possible the repair needs to be done by all three of your centers- those being the moving centre, the emotional centre and the intellectual centre. *Gurdjieff

During one of the hypnosis and regression sessions i did i went into the session feeling bullied and completely overwhelmed. I had many parts operating. I did not want any conflict anymore and i certainly did not want to be picked on either .Also in my thoughts i was concerned about the welfare of the other person whom i was having this experience with. I had a clear understanding of their suffering which i would have been happy to speak openly and perhaps do some of this kind of work so we both may be free of the conflict and associated discomfort. I needed to search to find what was it in myself that was contributing to the overwhelm and intensity of the situation. Without the added intensity i as an adult under any normal circumstance would be able to navigate through the resolution without much extreme of emotions or distress. So here i found a child aspect of myself that was running through this conflict with me and it was the part that was the most greatly distressed.

This child aspect we can call 3yr old Storme. During the regression i recalled a memory of when it appeared the rug had been pulled symbolically from under my feet. At that memory recollection my mum was in a distressed state herself and she was unable to connect to me and provide reassurance or a sense of security to me. At age 3years as children we are all attached to our primary caregivers emotional centre and there is no distinction between our own and the primary caregivers. As my mum was experiencing high levels of uncertainty and anxiety so did i. My perception was that i couldn’t find certainty from my mum at that time so i then went off by myself, trying to suppress the feeling but also feeling very alone. The belief which formed was that this ‘distress’ can come from nowhere and you will be blindsided. The thing you want the most which is to cling to your caregiver is not available in complete or only partially. From there on the learnt behavior is to suppress the feeling of uncertainty and move forward on your own, separating from your environment.

This particular regression i used a technique to aid in bringing understanding to the child aspect so they could learn a different behavior as they would then have the data to choose differently. So the technique used was for the 3yr old Storme to visualise looking into her mums heart and to see what information was available there. I discovered so much pain, anguish and sadness inside there. I was taken to memories of my mums where she was bullied at school. I was then shown memories of my grandmothers suffering in relation to conflict and back to her mother. Upon seeing this lineage of suffering my understanding was so clear i became full of compassion, empathy and acceptance. I continued in receiving bodytalk applications from my colleague and we worked to create repair and to release this pattern of suffering that had been passed on as a part of the generational blueprint to myself and my daughter. The thoughts surrounding these events for myself and the generation of women were “why is this happening to me” “i just want to participate and be a part of this group without conflict” “i need order and clarity so i can understand what is expected” “this has come from out of nowhere i have been blindsided” “i am excluded” and so on.

It is important to note that my experience and memory there as a 3year old child was also the memory and experience of my mum. We are so interwoven that we simply inherit ad carry with us pretty much everything and given certain choices and stimulus from our environment we can either stimulate and repeat the steps that have gone before us or make new choices in a different direction.

So inadvertently and unconsciously i had attracted in as a result of these patterns and associated beliefs a similar experience for myself. Parts of me were circulating the same thoughts and feelings whilst the mindful part of me was observing them. In a nutshell i have it affirmed everyday in my experiences that i am always co creating with my environment and i will always have some pattern, issue or belief system that needs to be addressed and investigated. As i change myself from within so does my environment reflect these changes. This is how we can create a more harmonious world from the inside out.

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Sound and Cymatics for Healing and regeneration

by Storme Reeves | Nov 6, 2016 | What's New